Most parents tell their children that life goes by quickly. Kids often ignore this advice until one day they find themselves giving the same advice to their children. We have a limited number of days on this planet. Because of this, we need to appreciate people in our life.
When we start to approach our mid years, our older parents, relatives and family friends pass away. We may regret not having spent more time with them while they were still alive. Life gets busy, to be sure. But, I think we need to make time to spend and appreciate our elders. Their time is more limited than ours, all things being equal. And as they age, they need the love of family. They realize it more than people who are younger, that they won’t be around much longer.
I am personally experiencing this right now with my own mother. My father passed away almost 10 years ago. All my relatives have also passed away in those 10 years as well as very close friends.
On the other hand, we need to appreciate our children and encourage them to spend time with us, for the very same reasons. Our mid years will soon turn into your advanced years, if they haven’t already. We will be the one realizing that there’s as much time left as we would like. There may even be grandchildren that we love spending time with.
Aside from family, we need to have friends as well. Our friends complete us and contribute to us having a more rewarding life. Appreciating friends is just as important as appreciating family. In many instances, friends will move away and we don’t hear from them again. It’s important to make an effort to keep in contact. Technology has made this much easier than it would have been even 20-30 years ago.
Appreciation is about being grateful. It’s about taking the time and thanking people for being a part of your life. Always be willing to help your family and friends, or even co-workers. Be grateful for the little things that people do as well as the big things. Remember to show and express gratitude.
Make sure you let the people in your life know you are there for them. Don’t just say the words. Show them in appropriate ways, if needed. Sometimes, people don’t like to ask for help. Consider showing up even if they say they don’t need help. Often, they will admit that you helped and made their lives easier.
Sometimes, appreciation is simply listening to others and finding out what they truly want, what may be troubling them or what they dream about. If you can help them in any way, support them or help them realize their dreams, they will be appreciative of you. Sometimes though they may not be able to share that with you, be there anyways.
If you want to be appreciative, be willing to give more than you take. This will set the stage that you are a caring person and it shows that you appreciate people. It’s easy and rewarding at the same time. Remember it’s not just the big things, it’s the little things as well. Say, “Thank you,” often.