3 Steps to Creating New Habits

3 Steps to Creating New Habits

Let’s talk about forming new habits. We all have times in our lives when we intentionally want to change our behavior for the better and create new habits for ourselves. This could be getting in the habit of eating healthier and drinking more water. It could be moving more during the day or taking the dog for a daily walk. It could be work related, or spiritual. It could be how you relate and communicate in a relationship. There are so many areas in our lives that could be improved and made easier if we created new habits.

Getting into the habit of doing something is often easier said than done. We seem to acquire bad habits without any effort, but getting into a “good” habit can be a little more challenging.

Let’s break it down into a three step process that makes it easy to follow until we’ve internalized the new behavior and made it a true habit and something we do more automatically without having to think about, driving our car or brushing our teeth.

1) Decide What You Want To Do

The first step is to decide what you want the new habit to be. Be as specific as possible. Don’t just tell yourself you want to exercise more. Instead say something like “I will go for a 30 minute walk every single day.” Deciding what your new habit will be and committing to when and how you’re going to do it, is half the battle.

2) Remind Yourself To Get It Done

The next few days should go smoothly. You’re motivated and excited to get this done. Initially, sticking to your new habit isn’t an issue. But a few days in you’ll notice that it’s seems easy to slip back into old habits.

Maybe it’s raining and you don’t really want to go out and walk. Or maybe your day just gets away from you. Maybe you’re just not feeling that great or there’s something else you’d rather do. This is when it’s important to have a daily reminder. Set an alert on your phone or add the new habit to your daily to-do list to keep you focused for a while.

3) Make It Part Of Your Routine Until It Becomes A Habit

This brings us to the last step. It takes some time before a new behavior becomes a true habit. Until then, a routine will work to your best advantage. Even before a new behavior becomes automatic, a routine will help you get it done without having to spend a lot of willpower, motivation or relying on daily reminders.

Make that daily walk part of your after dinner routine, or change from grabbing a snack at the vending machine at work at 10:00 in the morning to packing a healthy snack. Decide you will take the time to get in touch with that friend who’s been on your mind. Get up and put the dishes in the dishwasher when you’re done eating. Find a place to put those keys every time you come in.

Congratulations! Decide to create a new habit, practice doing it until it’s second nature and you’ll be well on your way to forming and having a good new habit. Once you’ve mastered one, why not choose another new one.

How to Love Yourself

It is possible to love yourself. Even with years of people constantly trying to bring you down, you can learn how to put aside those people and move on with your life. In many cases, people are not trying to bring you down on purpose. They think they are helping you by telling you what they really think about what you do and who you are.

The first step in finding that inner self-love is to stop worrying about what others think. You can’t change that. It is not within your control. So why worry about it? If there are people that don’t like you, that is not your problem. It is theirs. They won’t get to know you which is their loss, as well.


The second step is to actually say to yourself, “I love who I am.” Do it every day and even say it out loud. It becomes an affirmation that makes you start to believe it after doing it for a while. You may initially come up with some resistance and that’s natural. Stay the course and keep doing it.


Next is to force yourself to be happy even when you’re not. Studies have shown that you can shift your mood by simply shifting your inner voice to tell yourself that you are happy. Being happy as often as possible is crucial when loving yourself. If you think this is a challenge, then here’s a tip. Remember a time when you were happy, really happy. Really get into the memory, what you saw, felt, heard, all the details. Really feel it as you remember and before you know it, you’ll feel a smile coming up as you reconnect with that happy feeling.

Focus on the benefits of increased self-esteem that come from loving yourself. You will naturally become a better person not only to yourself but to others that you know. You will also make friends easier. The biggest benefit is the surge in confidence that you will experience. If you focus on this benefit alone, you don’t even need the others.

love-yourself-5Another great way to start loving yourself is to help others. Whether you choose to volunteer or you simply reach out to people in need, this is quite fulfilling and will lift your self-esteem that much further. When you are feeling down about yourself, helping others can bring you out of a funk. It may also show you that others have problems greater than your own. Helping them may bring them closer to the solutions that they are looking for as well.

You have the power to love yourself, it is within you. When you look at it that way, you take away the ability of others to bring you down. That’s when loving yourself enough really matters. You no longer give them the power because it belongs to you, yes you. Just keep using the tips from this article to practice and reinforce your ability to love yourself. You have it in you and you’re worth it.



Six Simple Tips to Improve Your Focus

For some of us, focusing on a task plagues us every day and with everything we do. For others, focusing may only be a problem at times in our lives when we’re facing challenges – either at work or home.

Most of the experts agree that there have never been as many distractions in history as there are today. Technology makes it possible for us to receive volumes of information at the same time. We could be working on our computers, watching television and talking on our iPhones at the same time. It’s information overload.

If you’re suffering from a bad habit of being unfocused, all you may need are a few tweaks to your lifestyle. To regain focus, try the following little things that could mean a lot to your focusing ability:

  1. Trade Caffeine for Exercise – While caffeine may become addictive and you may have to have it to remain alert, a good cardio workout can keep you going and help you focus. Exercise releases endorphins, a natural stimulant that can help to sharpen your focus.
  2. Keep Lists – If you’re finding it difficult to think of things you want to address in a meeting or discuss with your family, keep a notepad of written ‘hints’ that you can refer to periodically. It could be as simple as a key word reminder or a complete idea that you’ve thought of.
  3. Prioritize – If you find yourself procrastinating about certain tasks, prioritize them. Schedule a certain amount of time to complete part or all of a task and don’t take a break until you’re finished.focus4
  4. Get Plenty of Sleep – Nothing can zap your focus worse than sitting in the middle of a New York street during rush hour. Drinking too much alcohol or a stressful activity before bed can keep you from getting a good night’s sleep and play havoc with your focus abilities the next day.
  5. Drink Water – Water is cleansing and life-giving. It can also decrease your focus if you become even slightly dehydrated. The brain can detect any change that occurs in your physiological make up and begins to operate at a lower level until you correct the situation.
  6. Take Breaks – When you begin to lose focus on a task, it may be time to take a break, stretch, take a walk or do whatever it takes to refresh yourself. You’ll be more attentive when you return to the task and finish it in a much shorter time than if you didn’t take that break.

Both internal noises such as daydreaming or external influences such as noises or interruptions can interrupt your focus and make it a constant challenge to concentrate. You can empower yourself by doing what you must to help yourself focus and complete tasks on time.

Be sure to reward yourself when you accomplish a task that you usually have trouble focusing on. Bringing joy into your life can help relax your mind and make it possible to focus on the next task at hand.

Finding Your Passion

Finding and following your passion brings you more personal power and awakens you to the beauty of the world. It leads you to the heart of spiritual journey as it changes your thoughts, perceptions, and feelings. Finding your passion does not promise an easy life rather a rich life open to more opportunities and possibilities.

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1. Speak your truths clearly – To find your passion it’s important to know what you want and feel connected to your heart’s desires. Be ready to take action and embrace new adventures. Know what really matters to you? What truly makes you happy? Know the things you do best and makes you feel energized and uplifted.

2. Be open for support – It’s important to keep in mind that we are not isolated beings. We are not an island unto ourselves, nor were we meant to be. We need the support of family, friends and a positive-minded social circle that will help us reach our goals. We do best as members of a community.

3. Open up your senses – When you open up your senses, you tend notice and experience more blessings and may feel more peaceful and serene. This allows you to be more patient and be reminded the cycle of nature. When you experience this you can become more positive and calm.

4. Give yourself a time for joy – Waking up in the morning away from busy schedules and having the freedom to do the things that brings you joy? To find your passion you must allow yourself a time for joyful activities. For many people, allowing joy induces guilt as it is not productive and hinders you from getting important things accomplished. But this view of joy is actually a matter of opinion. Experiencing joy is good to your health and is productive. By allowing yourself time for joy you become more focused and passionate in your job.

5. Liberate yourself – A person who finds their passion is a truly wise person. Doing work that reflects your personality, values and heart’s desire brings you greater happiness and contentment. It is easier and liberating when we accept who we are and we allow other people to accept us too.

6. Nurture and feed yourself with affirmations – Affirmations are important in finding your passion in life as it makes you feel secure and optimistic about reaching your goals. A lot of people donít get to their destinations out of fear of failure. You should allow yourself to get upset by some downturns but remind yourself to pull yourself together past and get on track again. Some people might influence you into thinking negative. Itís not so easy to shut them out of your life. But itís easier to practice blocking the negative energies that they bring into your life. It keeps your sanity.


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Finding your passion is an ongoing journey and can change many times during your life’s journey. When you do the things that you are passionate about and are in the flow, you allow your life to flourish. You let yourself connect to everything you are in body, mind, heart and spirit. It becomes easier to face challenges better because you are nurtured by doing things you love. You feel more alive, positive, self-respecting, and determined. You live your life with energy, contentment, confidence and joy. You know you are contributing value and positivity to the people in your life.


What makes your heart sing...?

What makes your heart sing…?