How to Love Yourself

It is possible to love yourself. Even with years of people constantly trying to bring you down, you can learn how to put aside those people and move on with your life. In many cases, people are not trying to bring you down on purpose. They think they are helping you by telling you what they really think about what you do and who you are.

The first step in finding that inner self-love is to stop worrying about what others think. You can’t change that. It is not within your control. So why worry about it? If there are people that don’t like you, that is not your problem. It is theirs. They won’t get to know you which is their loss, as well.


The second step is to actually say to yourself, “I love who I am.” Do it every day and even say it out loud. It becomes an affirmation that makes you start to believe it after doing it for a while. You may initially come up with some resistance and that’s natural. Stay the course and keep doing it.


Next is to force yourself to be happy even when you’re not. Studies have shown that you can shift your mood by simply shifting your inner voice to tell yourself that you are happy. Being happy as often as possible is crucial when loving yourself. If you think this is a challenge, then here’s a tip. Remember a time when you were happy, really happy. Really get into the memory, what you saw, felt, heard, all the details. Really feel it as you remember and before you know it, you’ll feel a smile coming up as you reconnect with that happy feeling.

Focus on the benefits of increased self-esteem that come from loving yourself. You will naturally become a better person not only to yourself but to others that you know. You will also make friends easier. The biggest benefit is the surge in confidence that you will experience. If you focus on this benefit alone, you don’t even need the others.

love-yourself-5Another great way to start loving yourself is to help others. Whether you choose to volunteer or you simply reach out to people in need, this is quite fulfilling and will lift your self-esteem that much further. When you are feeling down about yourself, helping others can bring you out of a funk. It may also show you that others have problems greater than your own. Helping them may bring them closer to the solutions that they are looking for as well.

You have the power to love yourself, it is within you. When you look at it that way, you take away the ability of others to bring you down. That’s when loving yourself enough really matters. You no longer give them the power because it belongs to you, yes you. Just keep using the tips from this article to practice and reinforce your ability to love yourself. You have it in you and you’re worth it.



Six Simple Tips to Improve Your Focus

For some of us, focusing on a task plagues us every day and with everything we do. For others, focusing may only be a problem at times in our lives when we’re facing challenges – either at work or home.

Most of the experts agree that there have never been as many distractions in history as there are today. Technology makes it possible for us to receive volumes of information at the same time. We could be working on our computers, watching television and talking on our iPhones at the same time. It’s information overload.

If you’re suffering from a bad habit of being unfocused, all you may need are a few tweaks to your lifestyle. To regain focus, try the following little things that could mean a lot to your focusing ability:

  1. Trade Caffeine for Exercise – While caffeine may become addictive and you may have to have it to remain alert, a good cardio workout can keep you going and help you focus. Exercise releases endorphins, a natural stimulant that can help to sharpen your focus.
  2. Keep Lists – If you’re finding it difficult to think of things you want to address in a meeting or discuss with your family, keep a notepad of written ‘hints’ that you can refer to periodically. It could be as simple as a key word reminder or a complete idea that you’ve thought of.
  3. Prioritize – If you find yourself procrastinating about certain tasks, prioritize them. Schedule a certain amount of time to complete part or all of a task and don’t take a break until you’re finished.focus4
  4. Get Plenty of Sleep – Nothing can zap your focus worse than sitting in the middle of a New York street during rush hour. Drinking too much alcohol or a stressful activity before bed can keep you from getting a good night’s sleep and play havoc with your focus abilities the next day.
  5. Drink Water – Water is cleansing and life-giving. It can also decrease your focus if you become even slightly dehydrated. The brain can detect any change that occurs in your physiological make up and begins to operate at a lower level until you correct the situation.
  6. Take Breaks – When you begin to lose focus on a task, it may be time to take a break, stretch, take a walk or do whatever it takes to refresh yourself. You’ll be more attentive when you return to the task and finish it in a much shorter time than if you didn’t take that break.

Both internal noises such as daydreaming or external influences such as noises or interruptions can interrupt your focus and make it a constant challenge to concentrate. You can empower yourself by doing what you must to help yourself focus and complete tasks on time.

Be sure to reward yourself when you accomplish a task that you usually have trouble focusing on. Bringing joy into your life can help relax your mind and make it possible to focus on the next task at hand.



“If someone listens, or stretches out a hand, or whispers a kind word of encouragement, or attempts to understand, extraordinary things begin to happen.” ~ Loretta Gizartis ~

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I was a guest on a radio show last night and we talked about ‘forgiveness.’ In the cconversation it came up how many of us do better when we are inspired by the enouragement if another person or persons. See if you can be that inspiration for someone else today.

Make it a GREAT one!


Recording of the show on BlogTalk Radio




One of the most powerful energies we can experience is the effects of gratitude. Feeling deep appreciation and gratitude for anything actually changes how you feel and your own energy.
Gratitude shifts and transforms what we are experiencing. It can turn what we have into enough, and more. It can turn judgment into acceptance, conflict into understanding, despair into hope…and more. It can turn a regular meal into a feast, living space into a place we call home, a stanger into a friend.
Remember to begin each day of your life with gratitude. Speak words such as, “Thank you, God, for life, for my body, for my family and loved ones, for this day, and for the opportunity to be of service. Thank you, thank you, thank you!” or use your own. And when the day is one, reflect and affirm or write in a gratitude journal the things you are grateful for from your day.

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Your Greatness

How much easier would your early years, as a child and teenager have been if you had known how beautiful, smart and magnificent you are? If you had known and believed that you are enough, that you are already worthy, that you are already loved beyond measure and that you coould be or do anything you choose?

That was not the case for many and still happens today. The difference is we know more today, we have a greater awareness about the power of our words and the influence of our immediate environment in shaping who we are.

The good thing is, we can shift and transform non-serving thoughts and beliefs when they come up. We can also make sure that there are people in our lives who uplift and inspire us, who remind us of our greatness and magnificence and that we are truly a gift to this world.

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¸.•*✿ UNITY ¸.•*✿

✿ It is a way of seeing the universe as one.
✿ It brrings harmony.
✿ It is built from a shared vision for the common good.

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 ¸.•*✿ We practice UNITY when we… ¸.•*✿
✿ Refuse to join in when others express prejudice.
✿ Solve conflicts through listening.
✿ Treat all people as members of a global family..

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✿ I am part of the Universe. I appreciate differences. I am a peacemaker.  I care for the earth and all living things